The belief that healing is impossible is common in regard to both physical and emotional states therefore modeling cases in which healing did occur is relevant to both realms. If one single person healed from emotional trauma than emotional healing is possible. All we need to do is find out how to apply success to other cases.
In some cases the belief that healing is impossible is rooted in family genetics and pre-disposition meaning that if a disease runs in the family, individuals believe that they have no control over its outbreak. The feeling is that disease is a fate they must live with.
Although genetic predisposition is a contributing factor in disease prevalence, it is not the only factor. The fact that a certain disease runs in the family doesn't necessarily imply that all family members will actually develop the disease.
If you have a troublesome family medical history, you had better consult a healing expert that can advise you on relevant preventative measures.
The belief that healing is impossible is a huge obstacle because it prevents the body from recruiting and activating its natural healing resources. When you believe that healing is impossible, the body doesn't mobilize its inner healing mechanisms, healing doesn't occur which results in a re-enforcement of the undermining belief. The probability of full recovery keeps moving further and further away.
2.You Can’t Teach Old Dogs New Tricks
If I had a dollar for each time I've heard that statement I would be rich.
The common social and cultural belief is that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks or in other words that there are fundamental aspects in the human being that are fixed and that they just can’t be changed.
It is true that there are aspects that can’t be changed such as the basic anatomical structure of the body. In practical terms most of the aspects that people believe are unchangeable actually are changeable because they’re acquired not congenital.
A good example is the belief that personality is unchangeable.
In most cases when people try to stress that something is unchangeable they use phrases such as:
” I've been like that ever since I remember myself” or “ I was brought up like this or that “ or “that’s the model I grew up with- all my family members behave like that” and so on.
These phrases refer to aspects that were acquired through conditioning and there is nothing fixed about them at all.
In addition its important to remember that change comes in all shapes and sizes.
Change doesn't necessarily need to be radical or dramatic. Re-balancing, monitoring and better managing existing patterns can make a huge difference too.
Healing does not necessarily require extreme change. On the contrary, in most cases healing is the result of learning how to use one’s existing inner resources in a healthier and more resourceful way.
3.Self-Love & Self-Care Make People Egotistic
No matter which way you look at it, self-love, self-care and the ability to fulfill one‘s needs are built into to the state of well-being.
There are many social and cultural beliefs regarding self-love and self-care, the main one being that people who take care of themselves are egotistic.
This belief couldn't be any further away from the truth.
Self-love is the pride in being who you are and the determination to care for your needs.
It has nothing to do with giving or not giving to others.
There is absolutely no rational base to assume that taking care of personal needs necessarily implies the disregard of other’s needs.
This scarcity based belief is in total opposition to the abundance culture where there is enough of everything for everybody.
Another interesting aspect is the cultural belief (also found in many religions) that giving to others is a valued virtue and that thy who does good gets good.
This conditions people into self abolition as they attempt to meet the cultural norm of kindness.
The result is total depletion. People give out more than they have to give without refilling their own resources.
In practicality- only fulfilled and happy people really have what to give to others. By putting your needs at the bottom of your priority list you’re not doing very much good for your others.
When your needs are fulfilled, when you’re content and love yourself and your life, you are much more able to actually contribute and support others.
4.Healing Is A Long, Difficult And Painful Process
I agree that popping pills is technically easier than introspection, emotional healing or any type of behavior modification process but its not necessarily a shorter process or one that is less painful. If you've ever seen people going through chemo-therapy you know exactly what I mean.
The bottom line is that it all depends on what you focus on. Anything in life will be hard and painful if you believe it will.
If you shift your perspective replacing the words “hard and painful” with the words “challenging and intriguing” you immediately get a whole new state of mind.
The mind set that accepts healing as a fascinating challenge or even better as an opportunity, is the mind set that promotes healing on all levels and helps you work through the inevitable changes you need to deal with.
5.Health Conditions are a Punishment for Negative Feelings or Actions
The concept of reward and punishment originates in religious doctrines but has been deeply ingrained into secular culture. The saying that “the world is round” implies that each of us gets what we deserve and the way we act comes back to us.
Following that line of thought- disease must be a punishment for evil doing.
If disease is a punishment for negative feeling, thoughts or actions then one deserves the disease. Healing will not take place because disease is needed to complete the punishment- redemption cycle. Guilt and self-condemnation is a main component of this cycle and many believe that is cleanses the soul of negativity.
In this context disease actually promotes inner balance because if one gets what one deserves, then all is well and right and my conscience is clear. A type of logic although a very unhealthy logic.
Given that guilt is one the most unhealthy emotions in the entire emotional repertoire, the concept of reward and punishment not only prevents healing but actually re-enforces disease.
Holistic philosophy presents an alternative understanding of the relationship between the individual and higher force, a relationship based on a teacher-student model not a prosecutor-defendant model. This relationship supports individuals by utilizing imperfections for the purpose of self-growth.
Before embarking on any type of healing process it is advisable to identify related, underlying belief systems, particularly belief system that address the specific disease in discussion.
It is very common for people to turn for help claiming that they want to cure what ever condition they’re suffering from and simultaneously not believe that healing is possible. This duality is possible because the desire to heal and the related beliefs exist in two very different realms. The desire is usually conscious where as beliefs are often out of the awareness. This is why it is both tricky and vital to detect beliefs for healing to occur.
The beliefs described in this article are some of the more common beliefs I have come across in my work. Idiosyncrasies can be vast. When embarking on healing processes of any kind both common and individual beliefs should be identified and addressed.
Instead of closely examining these exceptional cases, which may hold new insights into the healing potential of the body, for the most part researchers continue to focus on the majority of cases located within the norm.
If healing occurs in even one single case than healing is possible. We just need to understand the mechanism that worked in that one idiosyncratic case, study and apply it as a model for other cases.